SKE48's hekin | Idols who choose money over love for their marriage

Understanding or values, not love or money

■Idols starting a deep discussion

Which one are you?

Which is more important, money or love?

I was thinking, "Oh, I'm not determined to love," so I felt cold to those who answered that it was money.

And while I felt cold about people who answered money, I also had the impression that they were honest.

Don't they mind that their image goes down? When.

I think that the love I advocated was rather sly, trying to get people in and repairing the world.

At that time, I suddenly asked myself if there was any sophistry in my thought that "love is important".

The SKE48 program on YouTube dealt with such a theme.

As Haruka Kumazaki said at the beginning, first of all, in the case of this theme, there is a condition that it is not just a human relationship but a married life.

It is important that it is not a friendship or a lover relationship.

In this case, what you want from your friends and lovers may be the feeling of security and the emotional feeling of being together.

On the contrary, it may be someone who wants to consult with them or go out with them.

Starting with rent, various living expenses are required.

As a general idea, most people may have drawn a family image of having and raising children.

It is said that 10 million yen is required for children's tuition until graduating from university.

If your child takes all the exams and go on to a medical or arts university, the amount will increase further.

Many of the members of SKE48 have been learning piano and dance since they were little, so I would like to give my children a lot of lessons in addition to the cram school.

This sense of money for school fees and lessons may have been influenced by their parents.

This sense of money for school fees and lessons may have been influenced by their parents.

It costs money to live as an idol, so they would like to thank their parents for their support.

If such a way of thinking is the basis, it is quite possible that love is not enough because it is a married life, and that money is important and that money is reflexively selected.

They never say, "If I have money, I don't need love."

I don't think people who choose money will choose friends with or without money as well.

In addition, the conditions required for a lover and a marriage partner may differ.

■Money is the last because love is important

Next, let's focus on how to understand the word love.

There was a discussion on a similar theme at the debate of university students.
Even if they are in their twenties, they will be able to separate so beautifully that it is interesting.

I don't remember which was the most.

But it's true that not a few people chose money.

When we discuss love or money, we really can't come to a conclusion.

And eventually the learning of the discussion means that it is important to accept the opinions of the other party and sometimes compromise.

It is not the answer to the discussion itself.

The main idea of ​​people that love is important is that they can manage to do it without money and be happy.

Because I had that idea, it was more love than money.

However, when I often listened to the opinion of people that money is more important, I sometimes thought that this might be the understanding that I finally got after a fierce and long debate.

Therefore, Kaho Sato, a money group, points out sharply.

She said, "I wonder if people who don't have money but have love can see that they have love but that they themselves are the most important for them."

In other words, the main idea of ​​people who think that money is important is this.
What is love?

Do you think you should love me?

Isn't it just words?

Do you use the word "I love you" conveniently?

Did you grasp a little?

College students who said that money was more important than love thought of love only in the category of the word love.

And this is not a bad thing.

Rather, I was impressed.

And I reflected on it.

I tried to treat them with love, but did I really make them happy?

Did I actually do something so much that love is important?

What is love?

Perhaps I don't understand the supreme love that I believe in, and I'm just saying that love is wonderful, just because I've heard from human biography.

Even if love heals the heart of the other person, it is the healing by the concept that we human beings have decided that love is like this in history, not the healing by my own love.

And there were also people like this.

Money comes first as a priority.

Love comes after that.

Because love is supreme, it is neither easy to express nor understandable.

You will work for a loved one.

Will make money.

Will spend money as needed.

And if your lover is on the verge or in need, you will be generous with your money.
When you "throw away" money that way, you can finally reach love.

Haruka Kumazaki, a money group says:

"I know that love is important. Of course, I know it's important, but I think we'll get angry and get worse if we don't have the money."

This is the nuance of needing money for love.

For example, the ultimate goal is to grow strawberries from seedlings and harvest the fruits.

Growing requires daily watering and maintenance.

We cannot produce strawberry fruits by any other means.

To put it the other way around, if you water and care for it every day, it will be fruitful.

Therefore, if you make money and keep your household budget, love will naturally come to fruition.

Rather, a person who is so difficult that love cannot be born cannot be married to such a person.

From another point of view

I don't need such a solemn love.

I wish your little kindness.

Love is embarrassing me.

I just want to live happily together.

Don't call it love, get enough money to go to an amusement park or movie theater together.

As I said, some people may feel that they are not so obsessed with love or that they are a little far away.

It simply differs in the definition and interpretation of the word love.

This is explained again by Haruka Kumazaki using a perfectly accurate expression.

"I'm talking about money, but I don't want to be insanely rich. I wish I had a normal happy family, so it's money."

Haruka Kumazaki says that her annual income for her marriage partner is 5 million yen.

Since the median annual income of Japanese men in their 40s is a little over 4 million yen, Miss Kamata's point that "5 million yen is expensive" is correct.

However, considering that the ideal annual income that about 50% of women want from their partner is 4 to 8 million yen, Miss. Kumazaki's values ​​are not different from the world.

So the 5 million yen she said may be the values ​​ of the family in which she grew up, or a higher number based on her annual income.

Then, it is not a money person equal to money worship.

Rather, it feels like a well-bred child who has common sense values ​​in the sense of money.

Marin Sakamoto, whose name was listed in the money group in the results of this survey, also worried that it would cost a huge amount of money to win in the teens unit (currently Prima Stella), "I do not want fans to spend money.

I remember she hesitated to call for a vote.

In conclusion, it can be said that those who choose money are, in a sense, rational in their understanding of words and sincere to both themselves and others.

This is because they do not think of money as a quality that they seek from their partner, but rather that it belongs to a family that is necessary for their marriage.

The proof is that it is also the money they make.

Also, money groups may be cautious about trusting people.

In a sense, it's about building a wall with another person, but it's also a courtesy to that person, an order and modesty that doesn't step into the territory of others with their feet and doesn't cross the line.

On the contrary, it can be said that those who choose love are generally about to understand words and relationships and are easy to believe in the other person.

■Love group counterargument

It would be exceedingly difficult to persuade this.

Probably not convinced by theory.

It's easygoing for profit and loss, and in a sense it's also incontinence.

However, he believes in love to the extent that his disadvantages are not taken into consideration.

The only thing that seemed theoretical was that "love is a motivation to make money."

If the origin of money is love, it will be advantageous in terms of debate.

The highlight is that Akari Suda and Natsuki Kamata are refuting the money group with very advanced logic.

"If you have money, can you be someone you don't like?"

If the money group affirms this question of Akari Suda, it has no choice but to deny the process leading up to marriage.

And the tone that "when he run out of money, I will break up if I don't have love" is also clean.

It is true that she tries to manage love better than money.

She further strengthens the love group argument by bringing out the harsh side as well as the convenient side of love.

After all, it is not only words but also convincing that Akari Suda, who probably makes the most money among SKE48 members, chooses love.

No one can respond to Mr. Natsuki Kamata's point that "If you flirt with money first, love will go away at the same time as money, so it will be love in the end."

In my own words, we traced the origin of money, and when we didn't have money, we had only love.

Therefore, the theory is that love is the most important thing.

By the way, Natsuki Kamata, who has a smart, theoretical and mature impression, was surprised because she thought she would choose money in an atmosphere.

Moreover, it is cool to defend love, which is an invisible metaphysical thing, with her reason and speech.

Intelligent people tend to be realistic and atheists, but with their smartness she dare to challenge the proof of conceptual things.

Like an old philosopher.

Still, it's interesting that Miss Kamata was surprised by Haruka Kumazaki's remark that " I think we'll get angry and get worse if we don't have the money."

Natsuki Kamata is a member of society who is ostensibly common sense, but she may be a pure and innocent young lady like Yuki Takahata.

However, it turns out that the love group often have to use extremes in order to gain an advantage in this debate.

In reality, we are currently living in a society that needs money.

The extreme theory for defending love is strong in theory, but it becomes unrealistic.

Kaho Sato's remark that "love can be obtained from relatives, friends, and pets" does not seem to make us feel disappointed with our marriage, but in reality such things happen on a daily basis.

The tone of the money group is us as it is.

■Love money or love with money

Money cannot be separated from love.

Miyo Nomura was talked about in the same program before because she spends 100,000 yen a month on clothes and beauty.

However, it is also for the fans, and also for the goal of becoming a human resource who can balance the idol and the model that she is proclaiming to the fans.

You too will go to a cram school to qualify, and you will go to a classroom to get a feat.

Just as people with many hobbies spend that much money, if they have high goals in their work and aim for multiple goals, it costs that much.

Hold hands by love.

Embrace with love.

Give gentle words by love.

Give a brooch by love.

Just because it costs money to buy a brooch here doesn't mean it's no longer love.

More gentle words are acquired through expensive education and culture,

the place to hug is paying to buy the right,

The power to hold hands consists of daily food and money to maintain good health.

Love and money were originally separate things.

It was separate, but when we embraced a society that needed money and spent it on something, that is, when we bought clothes, when we bought cake, when we went for a drive, it has become one and the same.

Where is love, where is money, it's just our personal judgment, and it may be like trying to eat a cookie separately from wheat and eggs.

In the communal life of marriage, what our hearts seek and tolerate is, in other words, sharing.

Do you love money or love with money?

This asks whether money is the purpose or the means.

In the former case, people's values vary widely, but it does not necessarily induce some kind of sermon.

But in the latter case, it is bread-and-butter theory(a reality) that makes love more concrete.

Let's borrow the above grammar and replace it with love.

Do you love love or love with love?

If it is the former, it may be regarded as self-satisfaction.

The latter is an ideal theory that gives more freedom to episodes than money.

"to love Money" and "to love love" are not suitable for marriage.

Therefore, when we conclude that the expressions "with money" and "with love" are correct, what we love with money and what we love with love becomes important.

What exactly applies to the object of "to love [blank] with money/love?

It means becoming a "partner" or "you" or a "child".

And the ultimate choice in the true sense would be "money or you, love or you" rather than "love or money".
In this way, the debate over love or money finally ends when a common enemy called selfishness and narcissism is revealed.

■High quality debate video

However, as a love person, I cannot wipe out the feeling of loneliness when it is said that money is overtly prioritized.

Something seems to be evaluated.

With that in mind, my idol, Kimie Akahori, chose love, so I'm happy with it for the time being!^^

(By the way, Kimie, who is a love person, also said "I want to be rich!" It should be kept in mind that a simple statement of love or money does not represent all of the person or values.)